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Lately life has been truly chaotic. I feel often as if I am being pulled in so many directions. So many opportunities have arose and my mind is constantly shifting from idea to idea, leaving me with almost no time to keep up. At first I was ashamed to come to terms with the fact that my focus was on too many of the ‘wrong’ things. Day after day I was in hustle mode and struggling to keep my head above water; a feeling that became almost overwhelming. So I started pushing harder and I didn’t realize the damage I was doing. Real damage! My family life began taking a real hit and the bumps were growing far to quickly for me to fix them. Sitting here telling you this has become my breath of fresh air. Because when everything felt like it was about to shatter and all I could feel was the failure that I was creating for my family and myself, I realized that it was all okay. It was okay to step back and breathe, it was okay to not try so hard, and it was all okay because I remembered what mattered most- my family and the time we have together. Most importantly, it was okay that this was happening because I, like us all, are Beautifully Imperfect.
It happens to us all
Doesn’t it? After all, life happens so quickly that it becomes easy to get priorities mixed up from time to time. There is so much demanded of us as mothers and wives, and so the moment we branch out and really focus on something bigger for ourselves the world seems to spin faster than manageable. During these times, if you are anything like me, it hurts most when it comes to family. The mind will always work to point out the negative, but only if we allow it. It will enhance everything we believe we are doing wrong, what we are neglecting, and drag us down more- if we let it. There are things that we can do, as mothers, to get us back on the track we want to be on. But first, despite the stress and the chaos, you have to remember…
Motherhood is a beautiful thing
From the very beginning, the moment we read the word ‘positive’ on that test- we change. We alter everything about the life we know and every choice we normally make. This is normal and every moment from that day forward we view differently. This journey was never intended to be an easy one. After all, don’t the best things in life take work and sacrifice? I bet if you asked any mother how well they had it all together my guess is that they would tell you their life is often a crazy mess. And that is okay because we are beautifully imperfect.
It is difficult to get back on track sometimes. It definitely doesn’t come easy in between the chores and the meals, and everything else in life. Sometimes when we try to make time for family, time for those little things that mean the most, everything else becomes like a weight. I know that feeling all too well. Responsibilities seem to pile up dragging you back into the miserable pit of overwhelming stress. But that is okay and it is not what you should be dwelling on.
One day those chores will be minimal and the meals will be simple. One day, dear mother, you will have all the time in the world to have that tidy house and no more laundry piles. For now, I encourage you to step back and reevaluate everything going on around you and make time for what matters most. Most of all I want you to breathe and realize that it is all okay and the mess is undo-able.
Listen to Your Gut
Your instincts are the most powerful alarm you have. That little nagging feeling that something isn’t right is the first sign that you may be going down the wrong path and focusing on all the wrong things. All too often that gut feeling is ignored and eventually we find ourselves saying “if only I would have stopped before and gotten back on track”. As with anything, your body will never mislead you. It knows you before you know you and it is something worth listening to.
Small = Big Accomplishments
Getting back to what matters probably isn’t going to be easy. The road may be filled with bumps and doubt at times. No matter how difficult, tiring, and impossible it may seem at times you have to drive on. But don’t try to take it all at once. Write down what you want to change and how you feel you can accomplish that change. Then list them from what you feel will be the easiest for you to achieve. Tackle one goal a week until you get back to where you want to be.
Take Care of You
To put it simply… you are no good to anyone or anything if you aren’t taking care of you! It doesn’t have to be something that takes up a large chunk of your time. It can be as simple as waking up 15 minutes before everyone and enjoying the peace. Or maybe listening to your favorite playlist in the shower. What ever it is, make sure you are making time for yourself and your own mental well-being.
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Keeping a positive mindset during the tough times is extremely important. What ever struggle you may be going through and whatever goal you are struggling to reach, always look at the positive. We are all beautifully imperfect and when we accept that and use our down moments as a way to grow we become even more empowered and able to get back to the place we want to be. If you have faith in yourself and faith that you can overcome the rut you are in, there is nothing that can stop you.
Just remember, no matter what hole you feel that you are in it is not your fault. You are beautifully imperfect, just as we all are. This is never a reason to give up on the things that matter most; both for ourselves and for our families. When this happens it is just a sign telling you to slow your roll. So take a step back, remind yourself that you are imperfect, and get back to being the mom, the wife, the person you strive to be.
I want to know- what is it causing you to feel less than the Beautifully Imperfect person that you are?